When we think of love, especially Agape love we focus on the scripture in St. John chapter three and verse sixteen; For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. (NIV). This is a powerful scripture to direct us in many concerns we share as Christians. It tells us that because of the love God has for us we are saved through Jesus Christ His Son. This is a powerful scripture for pointing us to the many attributes we have found in Jesus Christ and Salvation, the scripture even promises eternal life to those that are in the Christ-like sphere. But ladies, have you ever experienced this God like love from a man? Is that possible? In the case with an eros relationship, a greek term referring to a sensual relationship, has it been exhibited?
Love, whether philos (beloved) family member or friends, eros love relationship between man and woman and especially Agape love, the love we share with the Father; these three emotions run very deep and is very necessary to daily living. There are times when we do not experience this with rapid heartbeats or a surge that tingles the toes, but Love is very important to the make-up of human normality. I sincerely believe that the triangle of three kinds of Love should be present in each life to produce the normalcy of relationship. I believe it would normalize the mental state of an individual. “Love is patient, love is kind, It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres.” (I Corinthians 13:4-7)
Patience, kindness, admiration, self-control, gratitude, forgiving yourself and others, joyful, trustworthy, truthful, hopeful, protection for loved ones, and believing in others are attributes that we should call to the forefront when situations or circumstances arouse that we do not expect to happen to us. We must begin to take responsibility for the actions that we exhibit. Parents please relinquish a reality check on your children. It is urgent, perhaps it is time to stop watching so many reality shows and focus on the reality in our homes. Such as bullying, especially children bullying other children to the point of dropping out of school; to murdering children or causing another to harm themselves. How senseless and cruel is bullying? How long will we allow it and allow it to destroy those involved? The Agape love that Jesus has shown us is the answer to the bully and the person victimized. Unconditional love transforms bullying into respect for yourself, your fellow man and relieves the desire to do wrong to another. I Corinthians 13: 1-3: “If I speak in the tongues of men and angels, but have not love, I am only a sounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophesy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing, If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.”
Philos, the love one has for family and friends could possibly be the most difficult kind to exhibit. Jesus spoke of this friendship love in Luke 22: 20-21; ‘In the same way, after the supper he took the cup, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in the blood, which is poured out for you. But the hand of him who is to betray me is with mine on the table.”’ Wow! What fortitude, what character to control anger and disloyalty at such a high level as Jesus did in that scripture. The importance was to accomplish the WILL of the Father and not allow the enemy to change that Will. Verse 22: “The Son of Man will go as it has been decreed, but woe to that man who betrays.” Woe simply means this will not turn out in Judas’s favor. Another scripture spoken by Jesus that let us know there is much to be done to accomplish family unity is in Matthew 10:36, “A man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.” Jesus certainly did not make that statement to discourage loving your family, He was giving us advice on what to do when you are in a circumstance with loved ones that is not to your advantage or where peace doesn’t reside. Ones’ relationship with Jesus and His love for you is much greater than that of family and friends.
Now the focus of my article was to share with you the greatest love story that I have ever witnessed. It took place in Anchorage, Alaska in the year of 2005. In The Armour of Light Ministries, I was Pastor and there was a beautiful young lady that was diagnosed with skin cancer. Petitions were made continuously for this young lady to be healed of that plague, it seemed she grew worse. After many hospitals, doctors, treatments and home remedies this beautiful young lady’s skin fell from her hands, face and other body parts. The second layer of skin did not seem to heal but this beautiful young lady kept believing God for her healing. Her head became bald from treatment. She was physically weak and depleted of oxygen most times but she continued to come to church service and Bible study each week.
After being engaged to a young man for two years he told her, as their wedding date approached that they would get married when she got her looks back. This was surely a case of adding insult to injury if I had ever witnessed one. This beautiful young lady, now beautiful in Spirit, came to me for counseling to help her through this ordeal. Physically, mentally, emotionally and not immunological compatible, we discussed what she should do until this seemly death verdict was carried out. We agreed that her mind was still functioning at a high level, that she could return to college and complete her degree in sociology.
This young lady returned to college and there met the most magnificent male creature that God had created just for her. This young man not only fell head over hills in love with this young lady while in her state of appearance, he treated her as if she was royalty. What a joy it was to witness this kind of love between a man and a woman. It was undeniable what God meant for eros love to exhibit.
This young man was working on his Master’s Degree in Seattle, Washington. Whenever he was in town he attended church with her, made most medical appointments, transported her to and from college, was at her home or she at his. His parents accepted her condition because he told them he loved her. They became engaged to be married but she died before that wedding date. One would think how unfortunate the end of the story. How is he now? That’s not the end of the story, this young man sat beside her bedside loving on her and telling her how beautiful she was to him until she breathed her last breath.
The next time I encountered this young man was at the funeral home when we went to make arrangements for a funeral instead of a wedding. He walked over to me and said “what casket do you think she would like to be buried in?” I hesitated for a moment, not wanting her family to hear the conversation for I knew they could not afford the casket that I was looking at for her. The young man stated, “go ahead please tell me which one“. I then pointed out a lovely casket in hues of pink, soft and deep pinks trimmed in white flower with just a touch of gold.
When I entered the sanctuary on the day of the funeral, the casket that I had chosen was the casket she was beautifully arrayed in. I was later informed that this young man had returned their wedding rings to the jewelry store and purchased the casket that he believed she would like to be buried in. The jeweler’s heart was so deeply touched by this story that he sent flowers to the funeral. Her parents, sister, and brother were grateful and I was in awe! This is the greatest exhibit of love I had ever witnessed. Eros love God’s finest. I Corinthians 13: 10-11: “But when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.”